The "Stay Beautiful, Keep It Ugly" Project.

nobody finds me attrctive

i am 14 years old and just way a little bit over 15 stone i have no confidence and no self esteem i really just want to be like everyone else at my school i have no friends i dont think anyone likes me and i just want to fit in with everyone else

i think people are always spreading rumors about me and talking about me behind my back and i think they pick on me because i am fat and nobody ever has liked me and no one will ever like me or care about 

i just want to be able to wear really nice clothes and nice makeup and make myself look pretty and hopefully get a boyfriend and get all my confidence back 

sombody just help me i dont know what to do i have the lost my mind 

do you find yourself attractive? 

you can’t possibly sit there hating yourself and wait that for some random and cosmic reason, people will find something in you. In order for this to happen, for people to see who you are, you have to look what’s inside and what you have to offer and what you OWN that nobody else can’t take away from you.

keep in mind that your life’s just starting and you have a long way to go. People will judge you, stare at you, talk about you behind your back, the important thing is learning if you want all of that get to you. If you ask me, it’s not even worth the energy. People have called me names, they’ve said things about me, my life, my family and it only made me stronger cause i chose to showed them I was way above that crap.

you are beautiful in every way and it’s up to you to choose what side of you the world will get  to see.

If you wanna wear make-up, honey, you’ll learn how to wear it but trust me, making yourself look pretty is 90% about you being comfortable in your own skin so people will see it…the other 10% would be the clothes and silly little stuff we, girls, learn to use in our favour when we’re growing up.

:) Stay beautiful, babe.

Anonymous asked: I feel fat, but I'm too lazy to stop eating. I feel ugly, but I don't want to pile on the make up everyday, and I really don't want those weird looks. I haven't had a successful relationship. I feel lonely, although I'm surrounded by people. All my coping mechanisms just don't work any more. But when I feel like being someone new, or experimenting, or just want to be free, well, MCR and Gerard especially, I can't count on you. I'm going to Keep Running <3

Fat isn’t a synonymous with being ugly. It means you have a certain body type. Know that, first of all, the only thing that really matters is your health, and if your weight (over, under-) isn’t getting in your way to live a healthy life, you should be fine. Second, I know this may sound reiterative, but i can’t stress this enough: BEAUTY COMES FROM THE INSIDE, not from magazines or tv. Of course, the girls on tv and magazines ARE beautiful and i’m not one to say their beauty is not real cause it is, but! it’s not all what’s out there…Not everyone has to like what media is euphoric about.

What you need to do…Is start with the simple task of asking yourself if losing weight is really gonna make you happy or if your body really, REALLY needs it. Then, I do recommend you, that if you choose to lose weight anyway, do it in a healthy way cause you’re assuming that losing weight is only about not eating at all and it doesn’t work like that.

Practice some sports, that will help you in every level. You will stop feeling lazy, you’ll keep your mind busy, and it’s a healthy coping mechanism. 

sleep naked, dance naked, learn to truly love your body instead of hiding it in shame.  Look at your curves, touch yourself and embrace your inner beauty and it will gradually show.

 stay beautiful and keep it ugly.

Anonymous asked: I guess I'm really not asking a question... more of stating some thoughts. You have truly inspired me with this blog. I honestly believe everyone is beautiful, and tell people that daily. Many people respond "Your thin. You wouldn't know what its like" or "You wear makeup and are beautiful. You couldn't understand" So in reading your blog Ive decided to just be myself in whatever I do, along with going makeup-less now to show MY true beauty and hopefully inspire other women. Thank you[:

Anonymous asked: Well, sorry, I was maybe a bit harsh in my previous ask. I wasn't implying they're ugly, by any means but I fail to understand the title of your blog. By ''ugly'', are you referring to what society doesn't define as the norm?

Yes, exactly.

Anonymous asked: Instead of telling people to try to look their best, you're telling them to relax and be even uglier. How does that help them? Or do you just want them to give up on their looks?

I’m telling them to feel their best, to feel beautiful and wonderful just as they are without trying to be something media is selling them. Cause it might be a surprise to you or any other with this train of thought but the kind of beauty media sells it’s not the only kind of beautiful. Skinny is beautiful, curvy is beautiful, fat is beautiful and so on. I’m telling them that they can choose to wear dark, goth make up and they’ll be as beautiful as if they chose a light make up. I’m telling them they can be EVERYTHING they wanna be, they can be beautiful in any way the choose to be, as long as they’re doing it for themselves and as long as they don’t compromise they’re essence. I AM telling them to relax, but relaxing doesn’t mean giving up. I’m telling them to relax cause the pressure can take you to dark places. 

I don’t know if you’re just asking a question or throwing judgements around the place. But please, please, please don’t you ever dare telling me I don’t want to help my followers just because I won’t give them a standard look to work on. And also drop the “uglier” bit cause that’d mean they’re ugly in the first place, and they are not. They are perfect.

Assuming you’re statement comes from the use of this quote “Stay beautiful, keep it ugly” allow me to explain what it means to me: It means that you can look your best and be beautiful without allowing society to take a vote on the way you should look like.

Thank you for your ask, though.

xo!

hungerxartist asked: MCR and this blog make me want to just be me. You make me feel so loved. So...happy to be different. My Chemical Romance has saved my life. I owe them so much.

Oh god!!! Reading this makes me beyond happy and proud!!! Being different it’s nothing but good despite what people might say. They talk out of ignorance and it’s up to you to educate them and help them understand that is ok to be different and it’s your right to feel happy about who you are. NEVER EVER stop being you no matter what, alright? You’re perfect.

As for MCR, Trust me, I totally know what you mean…I’ve been saved by them so many times that I just stopped counting cause I know it’s gonna be like that all my life. I’m so glad you found something to hold onto and to help yourself keep the faith.

But remember that above all, you’ve done most of the work by yourself…So you owe yourself a lot and you can pay it by allowing yourself to find happiness!

Xo!

Anonymous asked: Why am I so ugly?

Who told you that huge pile of crap? You’re beautiful and perfect. You don’t need nobody’s approval to feel beautiful in your very own and super lovely skin